Kat CALLS...

This morning, beginning my long commute to work at 5:30am I thought i'd be able to walk the streets in peace. But, we all know that is just not a reality for most ladies. There I was walkin' about to walk into 3 men stumbling all over the place. My mind kept telling me to cross the street, but I've been here before.. and crossing the street can get you more attention than NOT. So I continued nervously.. mind you it is 5am in the morning and walking by 3 men at this time is already an alarm sign for me.

One man was stumbling over..like he had too much to drink. The other blatantly stopped and said his piece..

"Now look at this sexy thang walking here all late at night."

"fuck. i'm going to work just leave me a lone." I thought.

But I smiled in response. I tried to walk fast past them.. but then they all had a lot to say.

"Oh yeah..she's sexy. Can I walk you to the train ma? You see, bitch ain't answering me.."

Sometimes this stuff can be annoying.. and sometimes it can be plain ol' scary. I remember having a convo with one of my friends that says she doesn't mind it. In fact she loves that attention. But i don't see how. I tell my bf about it and he says the same thing like everyone does.. "You can't do anything but ignore it."

But i'm tired and fed up with it...So just wonderin' if i'm the only one with this issue.

Are you one of those girls ..

who Love the Sidewalk Attention?

or

have you had enough?

STIMULATE OR IRRITATE?

BROS BEFORE HOES??!!

So everyone knows how guys say “bros before hoes,” right??? Well, the question is should the same hold true for the women? I think yes! My best friend and I have this rule that we will not hook-up with a former lover of the other under any circumstances. Women must understand which is more important. Your close, like family close, friends will be there for you no matter what. That relationship is so much more important than any man. Trust me on this one. I just got out of this 3 ½ year relationship and I stopped hanging out with my friends as often to be with him. It wasn’t until I was out of the relationship that I was able to see what I had been doing. I had to apologize to my friends for my stupidity!! I will not let that happen again. My girls are here for me for life and no man should and will not come between that!

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Listen....
I don't know how many girls have to get played how many times by how many guys before they find out that there is no way they're worthy of being valued above our friendships among ourselves!! Then again, I guess if I was as trifling as some women are, the ones who clearly ignore the rules about your girls' guys - past, present, & forseeable future - being off limits, I might be worried the rest of y'all are just like me, and it's only a matter of time. I have to say, I'm blessed to have GREAT girlfriends. My four best friends from high school and I are still tighter than anything, not even being spread across the world has changed our connection and loyalty to each other. I'd be hard pressed to put those friendships in jeopardy over some guy. Meanwhile, an *unmutual* friend (let's call her 'N') of one of those same best friends (let's call her 'J'), watched her struggle in an unstable relationship with this guy 'R' for a couple years...only to end up going after him, and expecting to remain friends with J. How is N going to jeopardize a proper friendship for a guy she already knows to be an ass?? Here's another problem...we women are always on a salvation mission, thinking we can reform somebody...what's that they say about a leopard?? So, N is now carrying R's baby...while R continues to sleep around, driving his outside chick's vehicle...I wonder if she thinks it was worth it...

MY IDEAL SEX-MATE

My ideal sex mate gets me all hot an bothered every time his decadent conversation reveals his creative genius - I love a man with a mind. I don't care how good you look, if you can't speak well, we're going to have serious problems.

Talk to me, honey. Tell me about how current global economics reveals fundamental Flaws in the capitalist philosophy, how that exhibit you saw was the perfect expression of artistic struggle, how that director totally botched the staging of Mozart's Magic Flute.

And then after dinner and a couple glasses too many of Riesling Chardonnay
(that Israeli blend is my favorite!), you linger long enough at my door to be invited in. It gets a little warm, so the sweaters come off. Then it gets a little late, so the lights go off and the covers go on. We hold, we breathe, we feel. And I don't need to say a word for you to know that this is all I need.

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My ideal sex mate is someone who is going to be exclusively for me. After all the ties are set and done...
i'm ready to get raw and heavy.
Or sweet and sticky..it depends on the night.;)
I love that hot, sensual lovin' and I'm into foreplay AND roleplay. Hey... i can get bored easy.. I want my mate to be creative like me a. (I'm feelin' the Banana Split Get-up from "For the Love of Ray J"..(yeah I watch that on the sneak-tip too.)
Ain't nothin' wrong with an eXclusive partner to get out all your fantasies out with. ya feel me?

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An ideal man? What a thought!!

Well, first of all, nice teeth are a MUST!!!
No metal in your mouth! Gold, platinum, and diamonds in your mouth died a while ago with Trick Daddy. Jacked up teeth just really scare me. I think your breath must stink or something.
Men, please come correct! I need him to be at least 5’9”. I really don’t want to look him straight in the eye or even worse look down at him.
I LOVE a man with a brush cut! Sexy, Sexy, Sexy!! I love the brothas, but I do not discriminate against any other kinds. I need a man with some sort of “swagga”. I need him to walk around with confidence, but without being conceited. I need a man that knows his worth, but also knows mine as well. My ideal man loves his momma and has a great relationship with her. As they say, see how a man treats his mother and then you will know how he will treat you. He must be a God fearing man. I love a man that loves God and knows that God is needed in his life. I need him to know the importance of taking care of oneself. A manicure does not emasculate a man. He has to have a sense of style. Black and white Galaxy t-shirts DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT count as a style. Those days are LOOOOONG gone. A man that wears button ups, sweaters, something that you cannot get on the corner can get down with me. He also must like to snuggle. Affection is great! But please, I don’t want to be smothered. This is only just the start of my ideal man. Stay tuned for more additions. Let me know what you think!

THE SEXPRESS-OHS!

We started in College.
We re-united in a Coffee Shop.
Thus,
THE SEXPRESS-OHS!
ARE BACK.



So, why a liberal group about sex and relationships?

We are four friends, each at some kind of relationship/sexual cross-road. One of us has recently ventured into her first major *official* relationship, a mix of perks and drama, as usual. One has recently ended a relationship and is embracing single life & its perks whole-heartedly. Another has been enjoying those perks for a little while now, and is also dealing with the hidden issues that accompany it. And the other is trying to maintain her new celibacy.

We've been discussing our journeys, both seeking and giving advice, and above all, keeping it real. We see the benefit of being able to be real about struggles and openly share our joys with other females who can understand, or who at least care enough to try. So, why not share these benefits with more of our friends?